"And so when you decide that you would feel better someplace else — usually you get in this very defensive, justifying mode where you have to activate all of the reasons why you don’t want to be here, in order — you think — to justify going over there.
But all that does is activate all that cross-current in you.
You want something different than you have but you activate what you have, which just splits your energy and makes you less effective and then those who watch you can see that your life seems to be disintegrating. And then they will announce to you, “I don’t think you’re making a good choice because you don’t seem as happy as I’ve seen you be before.” And what you want to say to them is, “I’m not happy because I’m trying to please all of you and it’s not possible. If I could just do what I feel is best for me to do, without having to justify why I’m doing it, my energy would be clearer and I would feel a lot better and my future relationship would come faster and I would continue to thrive.”"
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